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Forgiveness.....Why is it so hard ? How does it re Forgiveness.....Why is it so hard ? How does it really help when most people who have harmed you aren’t even sorry and could care less if you forgive them ?The answer lies in the fact that forgiveness isn’t about letting the person who wronged you off of the hook. Forgiveness is about letting YOU off the hook.

When you forgive someone you free yourself from the bitterness that is tethered to your soul and keeps you so angry.  Many times you get so caught up in your pain that you say things like, “I will never forgive him or her,” and what you really mean is “I’m so hurt by this betrayal and all I have left to hold onto is my anger.” Genuine healing requires acknowledging the hurt happened,  the remaining wound was significant, but also bravely stepping into the realization that you are far more than this one painful moment in your existence.

Forgiveness is about you. It’s about freeing yourself from an emotional prison cell that only you hold the key to.  You deserve to be happy and to have peace.  If you’re walking around with a gigantic chip on your shoulder, nothing and no one in this world can get close to you.  You deserve to be happy and at peace. Be strong enough to let it go. Free yourself.

Who do you need to forgive?
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#bossbabetribe #itgetsbetter #rapevictim
I’m thankful. I’m thankful and I’m blessed. I’m thankful.

I’m thankful and I’m blessed.

There are many difficult situations in my life that if focused on, could cause me to spiral into a dark place. But the truth is I simply don’t want to ever be in that place again.  And I don’t have to be.

I’m a survivor and I have a lot of baggage. I always joke and say that, “My baggage is like Louis Vuitton, and everybody wants some.” But the truth is that I am simply who I am.  I come pre-certified: “AS IS.... scars, flaws, and all imperfections.” The exceptionally beautiful thing is I don’t have to hide that fact or make excuses for it.

I do my best. I love with my entire heart. I may be too much for you or simply not your cup of tea. That’s okay because not an ounce of my self-esteem is wrapped up in what others think of me.  Dr. Phil taught me that.

Each day I try to improve myself and heal a little more. I try to spread love and kindness wherever I wander. I speak hope and faith to people and I try to lift others as much as possible.

Most importantly, I laugh as much as I possibly can.  Laughter truly heals my soul. There is simply nothing better than laughing with the people you love. Genuine love allows you to feel at home wherever you are—even in the middle of a greasy spoon hamburger joint. That same love allows you to laugh without shyness.

Be thankful for who and what you have right now.  The people we love are taken from us too soon and life can change in an instant. Be grateful. Give hugs. And before you go to sleep tonight, look in the mirror and say, “I did okay today. I survived. My heart is still beating. Tomorrow’s a new day. I will rise.”💪.

Then tuck in that tiara and have sweet dreams.👑
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My secret is simple. I pray. When I’m scared, I My secret is simple. I pray. 
When I’m scared, I pray.
When I’m nervous, I pray.
When I’m weak, I pray.
When I feel alone, I pray.
When I don’t know what to do, I pray.
When the world is crazy, I pray.
When I’m thankful, I pray.
When I’m happy, I pray.
When I’m lonely, I pray.
When I’m weak, I pray.
When I’m confused, I pray.
When I’m angry, I pray.
When I’m worried, I pray.
When I feel hopeless, I pray.
When I’m laughing, I pray.
No matter what happens, I just do it.💕
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#trustgod #trustgodbro #trustgodsplan #jesustakethewheel #faithblogger #faithfulness #faithoverfear #faithhopelove #jesusheals #teamjesus #faithfulness #proverbs #proverbs31woman #matthew18 #lostsheep #lordismyshepherd #christianquotes #christianblogger #godwillprovide #christianblog #christianliving #christianmemes #christianinspiration #amazinggrace #gravesintogardens
Need some inspiration? Check out my memoir, You H Need some inspiration?  Check out my memoir, You Have Such a Pretty Face. It details my 243 pound weight loss and how losing that weight didn’t magically fix my life. It’s available on my website, (link in bio,) on Amazon, KDP, Barnes and Noble, and audiobooks.

Need more one-on-one help? DM me for details about my life coaching. I help people become their very best selves every day.

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There are so many options available to help you. Are you ready?
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This is one of the many reasons that healing takes This is one of the many reasons that healing takes time. You don’t just wake up one day and decide the negative thoughts that roll through your mind on a regular basis are no longer valid. 

It takes time to recognize and then tear down negative thought patterns and develop healthy, positive ones to replace them. Learning to be compassionate and kind to yourself is not an instantaneous process. Realizing that you are worthy and that you always have been is a slow-growing reality.

But truth is a beautiful thing and learning to live in yours without the lies of shame that you’ve been dragging around will give you a freedom that is life-changing.

Here is some truth:

The world needs the light that only you can provide.

The universe needs your magic and your very specific beauty.

You are one of a kind. God doesn’t have bad days and He didn’t make any mistakes when He made you.

You are priceless.

Your story matters.
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#yourstorymatters #yourstory #timesup #mystory #mystoryoflight #myvoice #yourvoice #yourvoicematters #csa #csasurvivor #cptsd #sexualabuse #childabuse #rapevictim #rapesurvivor #whyididntreport #healingispossible #addictionrecovery #soberliving #selflovefirst #selflovejourney #kelleygunter #youhavesuchaprettyface #homecomingqueenofcrazytown #traumahealing #unlearning #courageovercomfort #fightforwhatsright #bethechangeyouwanttosee #shineyourlight
Yep, I'm showing you my big guns. Anyone who knows Yep, I'm showing you my big guns. Anyone who knows me, knows how ridiculously funny that is, because I. DON'T. LIFT. WEIGHTS. I'm strong though, so let me explain my overt flexing. 

I was a hot mess for many years of my life, but one thing I was determined to do was make sure that my son did not get abused the way I did. I was overprotective to the point that once he was in Junior High he nicknamed me “The Apache,” because he said I was like a helicopter and I hovered. 

When he was in college studying psychology, he text me a picture during class of a power point presentation defining a helicopter parent. He included the 😂. I was tempted to send back the middle finger emoji, but settled for the heart emoji instead.♥️ (Powerful evidence of my improved impulse control). 

During his childhood I was definitely hypervigilant and probably downright paranoid, but I don’t regret it. He didn’t understand then, but he understands today.

It's called generational abuse. It didn’t start with me, but it ends with me. 
#NOTONMYWATCH
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💕💕💖 . . . . . . . . #healingjourney #heal 💕💕💖
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I’m not going to be quiet. I’m not going to be I’m not going to be quiet.
I’m not going to be quiet because being quiet almost killed me. Being quiet allowed the darkness to gain ground and eventually overcome me with all of its power.

As a survivor of rape and sexual abuse, being quiet for most of my existence, allowed that unhealed trauma to ignite into self-destruction, mistakes, and addiction. Silence only magnified the shame that paralyzed me into believing I would never be enough. Eventually all of that pain brought me to my knees.

I speak and share my story to spread light for the millions of victims who still feel trapped in the darkness. You are not alone. If you look closely where you are, you will discover my footprints.

I’ve been there.

If I can heal, so can you.
IT. DOES. GET. BETTER.
You are more than anything that was ever done to you. You are strong, brave, and courage-filled. It was not your fault.

You deserve to heal. You deserve to thrive. You deserve joy. Don’t let the pain convince you that no one cares. I care. You matter. Your voice matters. Our stories matters.

I stand by you.
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Life is hard. Living with secrets is even harder. Life is hard.

Living with secrets is even harder. Trying to present yourself as whole and healthy when you feel like a pile of shattered remnants is not easy.  In fact, it’s exhausting.

I would relocate my heart, but it didn’t matter where I moved, because the one thing I always brought along was me. I ran and I ran, but I could never get away from myself.

Sadly, the things I tried to escape to, hurt me just as much as what I was running from.  I was all over the place, spinning my wheels,  trying desperately not to crash.

Existing behind a mask is horrifying and it places you in a trap of never ending anxiety and paranoia—what if they find out? Why are they talking about me? How can I fix this?

Sexual abuse is so toxic and consumes the soul of its victim with poison and pain. The only true antidote is healing. You do not have to live in shame.

You do not have to exist in secrecy, controlled by the monsters of your past. Hope and healing provide a light where the beasts that once devoured you cannot exist.

You deserved better. 
Seek your peace. 
Heal your soul.
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I always tried to hide my broken places from the r I always tried to hide my broken places from the rest of the world. I thought that if anyone saw my many imperfections, they would see me as less-than and wouldn’t love me.

I went to great lengths to hide the scars on my body from my many surgeries. “Friends” even said that they would never want to have the surgeries I had because they would never want the scars I had. One person said my scars were worse than just leaving the extra skin from my massive weight loss would have been.

I eventually realized that I wasn’t really trying to hide my physical scars. The unhealed emotional wounds that remained from the sexual abuse I had endured throughout my childhood, were the catalyst for me trying to hide every physical scar I had.

I wanted to appear normal. I wanted to be like everyone else. I didn’t want anyone to know my secret. I wanted to be enough. I wanted desperately to be pretty, because I thought if I was beautiful, people would overlook my brokenness. Once I was able to begin healing those internal scars, my outward appearance took on far less importance.

It was such a relief to just embrace my true self—to stop hiding who I really was. Today I no longer hide my scars. They remind me that I survived the unthinkable and that God refused to let go of me. My healing allowed me to gain a new perspective and to realize that my beauty has nothing to do with my physical appearance.

Oh....And I also got new friends. 
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